The major reasons you need to start letting go of an ex that is doing you no good

Letting go of an ex after a breakup can be a bummer… especially if you were the one being dumped. Sometimes, if it involves infidelity, it can be pretty devastating for the person doing the dumping. Moving on isn’t easy. But should you really be holding on to someone who wasn’t right for you in the first place? I don’t think so. It isn’t healthy.

Here is why you need to move on

1. There is a reason he is an ex

If it didn’t work in the first place, there is no guarantee it will second time around. So stop engaging him. If he hurt you and you felt the need to dump him or her in the first place, chances are they will do it again. One thing we need to admit as adults is: you can’t change people. People have to make that decision on their own. They let you go because they felt the relationship wasn’t worth fighting for. 

2. Letting go of an ex is the first step to moving on and meeting new people

Stop going through their social media or sending those vague messages. These are the things that stop us from moving on. And while you are brooding over lost love, you will be missing out the plenty of fish in the sea. You will miss even the most obvious signs that a new person is great for you. The best thing you can do for yourself is to block all communication with them. Then give yourself a good cry and move on!

Yes, you might have invested time n them but that is the past. Giving them more airtime is fruitless. Why not invest time re-iventing yourself for the next guy or girl?

3. Its a great time to love yourself

Now when you begin purging your ex out of your system, you start finding time to do the things you couldn’t do while you are together. Take a trip. Enroll in a class where you can meet new people and learn new stuff. Spend time with your friends.

That chapter of your life with them is gone. Create a fresh you. If you look at it positively you will find that letting go of an ex might just be the best thing you do for yourself.

 

 

 

Carole Payne

Carole Payne, 27 years, life coaching, advice, and tips